Being a single mom can be what keeps you up all night, but you’re not the first and you won’t be the last. Sure, things can get on top of you and you can feel like life is just one uphill struggle. This is especially true if you’ve only recently found yourself in this situation.
Of course, I know you love your babies to the moon and back but that doesn’t stop the worry. Whilst I’m not about to say it’s going to be a “bed of roses”, I am going to try and alleviate some of your worries around the holidays’, so you can feel like you’ve at least got that hurdle covered.
It’s Going to be a Wonderful Christmas Time
Or so your children think, and there’s nothing wrong with that. After all, this is most kids favorite time of year, but for you it’s all about making sure they get everything they want. If you’re planning your first Christmas with the kids, make sure they understand that one “large” gift is all you can manage.
For instance, my son decided he would like a bicycle and because I save throughout the year, it wasn’t a problem. What I did learn however, is not to forget the accessories you’ll need such as safety equipment and a pump for when the tires go flat (and they will). Incidentally, you can pedal your way over to Pumps for Bikes who have tones of choices and at prices single Moms can afford.
Arggghhh… Schools out for Summer!
Next to Christmas, the summer break is one of the hardest to organize simply because the kids are off for several weeks in one go. Summer camp might be an option, but not all of us can afford it. What I will say is I always make sure my vacation time is booked through the Summer break, so I can spend some much-needed family time with the little ones.
The other thing I do is get together with a bunch of girlfriends. We take it in turns to host a sleepover and in the warm weather, setting up a tent, organizing snacks and fun things to do always goes down well. When it’s my turn, I set everything up and keep a close eye from the deck whilst the other Moms have a well needed rest.
Don’t Forget About you
The ideas above are literally the tip of the iceberg. There is loads more you can do that won’t cost much (if anything), and the kids will always appreciate spending time with you than being left to their own devices. That said, you’re no good to the family if you feel overwhelmed and, well, just downright exhausted.
This is why taking time out for yourself is important too. When the children are tucked up in bed don’t feel bad about indulging in a movie, enjoying a glass of wine whilst you take a long soak in the bath, or just be happy doing nothing for a few hours.
Accept Help if you Need it
Not all of us have a strong network of friends and family, so if you get to a point where you think you’re about to burst a blood vessel, don’t be afraid to ask for help. There are plenty oforganizations out there who dedicate themselves to helping single moms’, and you’ll be surprised at just how “not” alone you are.
If you do have a support network, don’t think you can’t make use of it. Everyone will understand just what hard work it is raising a family alone, and they’ll probably jump at the chance to give you some time off.
The main thing is – enjoy the good times!